My advice would be not to tell anyone you are in labour. That way they wont know and wont come and visit you. DH also called people with updates while I was in labour - something I was NOT happy with. For our next baby, I'll be only telling people the NEXT day, after the baby is born. I dont want to have people waiting for me up at the ward when I get to my room.. I regret not telling everyone to leave. I didnt get to have any nice mummy and daughter time that day and I feel this made it harder for me to bond with my daughter. Remeber, a decent person will respect your wishes, so if they wont, they obviously think its all about them and not you. So yeah, personally, I wouldnt even tell anyone that your even in labour.