please help-Dilemma-how long did your DH stay at hospital after birth

[squidipa]

Most hospitals are EXTREMELY flexible when it comes to the day bub is born hubbie would be able stay well past visiting hours if quiet. I too would be upset with wanting to play poker.

[Ella]

HMMM world war 3!!!

I would tell hubby that he needs to get his priorities right, who cares if he can 'just make it' he needs to be there with you!

[aussienic]

I don't think you are being unreasonable at all..

I would be pretty furious if my DH had left to play a game.. As it was my DH left the hospital less then an hour after our dd's birth to go have Lunch with the kids.. while I knew he had to go help my mum with the 3 boys I was still hurt for Dd he had left her there alone.. Silly I know but still (I had 3 c/s first was a natural delivery)

After my first was born at 12:10am Dh and my mum left the hospital around 3:30am but Dh was back at 7 the next morning.

My sugesstion to you would be this.. Say right I understand you want to leave for your poker game but how about we wait and see how we are all doing.. Maybe you will just want to sleep so it might be ok for Dh to go to his game.. but have him promise that if you feel you need him to be there with you then he stays kwim?

[babybabycakes]

My sugesstion to you would be this.. Say right I understand you want to leave for your poker game but how about we wait and see how we are all doing.. Maybe you will just want to sleep so it might be ok for Dh to go to his game.. but have him promise that if you feel you need him to be there with you then he stays kwim?

Thanks for this suggestion earlier. we argued again today about it and i said 'lets play it by ear and see how it goes' he still thinks he will go and doesnt understand. i still think he shouldnt, but arguing stopped for now. still feeling but need to be calm. hopefully i have natural labour before that. if not one of the middies i saw today said that if it happens that he wants to go, they can find lots of ways to 'need him there for bub' so that he cant go. they were pretty shocked and seem glad to help.

I just he comes to his senses beforehand and realises what a crappy thing to suggest. might speak to his best mate to see if he can talk sense into him.