Sooo friggin cranky!!

[Arimeh]

Ok, so this could probably go in the boohoo room (mods move if you think it should be there) but its about birth and stuff so thought it deserved to go in here.

I'm so sick of the friggin negative comments I'm receiving about going for a natural birth this time around - not exactly the support I need being a VBAC.

All my work mates (at morning tea) just said that I won't be able to handle it, and that I will end up having another c-section because I'll be screaming for it to be "cut" out of me. And that basically I will not follow through with my no drugs plan because I won't be able to handle the pain.

So basically, no friggin support from my friends. I'm soooo angry..

[Lolli]

No wonder you're cranky... you have my support. You are strong and informed and know what you're doing. Good on you!! I'm sure you'll be amazed at what your body can do

[~Raven~]

Don't get angry...refocus it and prove to them you can. I had the same issue when I told my friends I didn't want an epidural and proudly them I got through with only gas

[PinkPalace]

Gudism!

I am so excited for you that you are going for a VBAC!
It is a major decision to make and i think it is wonderful!

Try to ignore all those negative people and think about how wonderful it is going to be to experience the birth of your bub naturally without surgery!!

big hugs to you!

[Arimeh]

Raven - believe me, its only made me more motivated now to prove them wrong - because I'm such a stubborn PITA that I will do it just to shove it up their noses.
But still pi$$es me off cos I don't have my family support (except for DH and my SIL) but my sister and mum both think I'm stupid..

[The[cookie]Doctor]

So, I'll fly to QLD and be your support team, mmmk?

I'm so sorry you're finding it hard to rally support Mel... but you show them!
You know that your body is capable of this, and that YOU CAN DO IT.
Be informed and empowered and show them all!!!

Haha and then deny them baby access for doubting you... or is that too cruel...
Oh I'm a horrible person.

[Ayapi]

Mel - In the end the only people that matter will be your DH and you. I am so proud that you're going to have VBAC this time round. I know that you will get through this with flying colours.

[nic]

Raven - believe me, its only made me more motivated now to prove them wrong - because I'm such a stubborn PITA that I will do it just to shove it up their noses.

Mel, that sounds so much like me it's not funny!
Then you can turn around and tell them that it was soo much easier than a c/s, then see what they say!
I think they may be a bit jealous that you are researaching and have a plan, and a supportive DH!

Can't wait to hear all about your VBAC

Nic

[MantaRay]

Mel, that really makes me angry. The truth is that most people who agree to drugs when they had originally not wanted to, do it out of fear that they won't be able to cope, rather than the fact that they aren't coping. And it's comments like that which lead to that fear. And then if those comment result in you deciding on pain relief the people who inadvertently caused it will be the first to say "I told you so".

You can do this Mel. I know you can. And having a doula will be a big help to you in achieving your goal. Don't listen to the nay-sayers, don't let those negatives thoughts near your head.

I would love to be a fly on the wall when you are able to say to all those doubters "I told you so". Go get that birth you want hun, you can SO do it.