I had my last antenatal class on the weekend and the midwife was telling us about the first 3 days of baby's life. Day 1- baby is most alert in first hour and then has a big sleep which is a good time for me to rest. Day 2- milk hasn't come in so baby is wanting to feed heaps. Day 3- milk comes in, can have sore boobs.

So she was saying it's best if you can tell ppl not to visit straight away so you can get the rest you need on the first day. (If all goes well at the birth centre you go home after 6 hrs and the midwife visits you at home). Then on day 2 tho I don't want ppl in and out all day when I'm trying to feed, that would be awkward and I won't want to be doing it infront of everyone. Don't think I should have to go away and hide in my room when I'm trying to learn to feed. Then on day 3 I could be uncomfortable with sore bbs etc.

Ideally I don't want ppl to visit in those first few days but realistically that's not going to happen!! I just know ppl will be angry with me and upset if they can't come straight away. Already had 2 family members that live in NSW tell me as soon as they hear I'm in labour they're gonna start driving!! wtf?? Well anyway, I'm not telling ppl I'm in labour so that will solve that problem and I guess I'll have at least a day before they get here! So what do I do with the rest?? Family lives about 1.5hrs away so if they come it's not like I can say after 10mins, ok I'm tired now, go home, lol.

It's great that ppl are excited and want to see the baby but I feel jibbed!! It's our baby and we should be able to get to know it first and not feel pressured with ppl hanging around all the time. So basically I'm just stressing about it already. Any tips?? What did you do??

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