We made the mistake of telling people! We raang my mum , because I wanted her to be there. No problems there. But then DH told me to ring and tell his parents when we were on the way to the hospital. I really didnt want to talk to them or tell them, but I did anyway. So then while in labour at the hospital DH was calling them with updates, and his mum is going "oh she just had peth... well thats going to slow her labour right down"!! Then they were practically waiting in the ward for me after I left the delivery suite so visited very soon after birth, which I felt was rather disrespectful because they didnt even ask! A massive invasion of privacy, IMO. My mum had also called my sister who ended up showing up in the middle of labour and waiting outside the room telling the midwife "dont hurt her!!".

Luckily, there wasnt too much invasion.. but, in hindsight I wish we just told my mum and asked her to not tell anyone else. I wouldve felt a whole lot better if I had the chance to hve some of my own time first.

If I was you, i'd just tell the people who you want there.. and remind them not to tell anyone else!