You can actually request with the nurses for no visitors, and if people do show up they will be shown the door by the nurses. I had a few peoples names down on the no visiting list for the birth of my boys, but as far as I am aware none of them attempted to show anyway.

it is totally up to you who you want to tell and when. I found out about the birth of my best friends baby 3 days after she had her ! I was pi$$ed but got my own back with the birth of Ashton

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