I had a similar situation too - with my mum wanting to be there and a girlfriend also said she wanted to wait. Over the course of the pregnancy whenever we talked about labour I subtly made it very clear that we would be letting people know in our time and for everyone to check with DH about when to visit including family. Actually my MIL wanted to come as soon as she heard I was going in for the c/s but DH managed to hold her off a bit - having said that they must have been around the corner because I remember coming out of recovery and his whole family were there! Will definately not happen like that with no#2!