Nonie, STOP TALKING TO THESE PEOPLE!!!
You need to be surrounded by positive birth experiences. If you fill your mind with nothing but pain & fear going into labour you will more then likely have a bad experience.

I would suggest you look into Hypno Birthing. I did this with my 3rd & while I didn't use the technique during my labour (only because it was so quick), having the idea of it in my head & learning about what your body is doing during labour helped me heaps. All 3 of my kids have been born without the need of any pain medications. My second was a postiorer(sp?) birth too, so textbook was more painful, but I handled it better then my 1st as I didn't take the fear in with me.

You need to tell these people to repect your wishes & if they haven't got anything positive or supportive then you don't want or need to hear it.