It reminds me of something I learned (darn I wish I remember where) that the first person to cry, wins. Because playing the victim detracts from the real content of the debate. If you can make it look like you've been bullied, you've "won". And that's just not cool.
That's REALLY interesting and VERY true, exactly what happened on Jo Tantum's Facebook wall recently!! Yes please remember where you read it lol