Aww darling!!!
FWIW, I don't think you are being mean to her!!!! You are trying to help and guide her to what is best for her!! Please do not feel bad or guilty for wanting her to BF

I wish I had some super awesome piece of advice that would help you latch her, but all I can say is have you gone to a lactation consultant? Have you called the aba hotline and talked to them about it? Is it possible the fact that the bottle is so much easier for her to get milk out of could be preventing her from latching?

When it comes down to it though, breast milk is the important thing, and if she is still getting that through a bottle or a boob, then you are doing an amazing job!!!
Hang in there, check out the aba hotline and they have a forum too which has aba counselors on it.

you are not a mean mummy!!!!!

Ps and tell your dh you need him to support you, not Make silly comments that upset you!!!!!