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She hasn't grown in 3 months
My now 13.5 month old girl hasn't grown in about 3 months since she was 10 months old. She has tumbled from 40%ile to -40%. I haven't taken her for her 12 month check up yet because we just returned from a loooooong holiday overseas where we all had a fabulous time and my daughter had a ball, but she wasn't overly fond of the food so I fed her puree and bananas (she is a BLS baby).
She is usually a massive eater and is breastfed, but I've been worried about my milk supply for a long time. However, she doesn't drink well from any kind of bottle or cup everything ends up down her shirt, and will really only drink water (she'll sip milk in a sippy cup but won't drink much).
I'm feeling ill at the thought of what the doctor will say at her checkup. Is there something wrong?
Also, she started walking with a walker at Easter and this many months later she still isn't walking, it's like ever since then she's just stopped developing. I can't understand what's going on. She's bright, lovely, active, loudly spoken, entertaining, gorgeous, witty... but physically she has stopped developing and I feel like the worst mother in the world but I don't know what to do.
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What a worry for you!
I think the best thing for you to do is to get some medical opinions and look more closely at what your girl is and isn't doing. There are all sorts of things that might affect growth and development, not all of them necessarily bad. From your description of her, it sounds like she's a bright, healthy little girl, so you're obviously not doing too badly!
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It is totally normal not to be walking at 13.5 months, and weight gain etc really slows down about that time. But I agree with MadB, some medical advice would be great. Don't fear the doctor, there might not even be anything dire wrong, and even if there was, it wouldn't be your fault. You are doing a great job with your DD.
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Hi,
I agree with Mad B - take a deep breathe for a start!
At this age it's not your milk supply that's the problem. Babies eat and breastfeed and grow. If she's not having any meat in her diet you probably want to get some meat into her for protein.
Start with taking her for her 12mnth check. And keep breastfeeding. Overall, she sounds great!
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The walking thing may be because, although she did it with a walker, she isn't ready to walk herself. 13.5 months is not late for walking.
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She eats plenty of meat, sometimes she strips the meat off her sandwich and eats that then throws the rest on the floor, she loves it. I've compared how much she eats with other babies her age and she eats 5 times what a 12kg baby eats.
I'm scared they will subject her to blood tests and godknows what else. She doesn't tolerate pain well and I just don't want to do that to her. :-(
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FWIW my DD1 weighed 13 kg for almost 12 months. I can't remember how old she was, probably from around 18 months? I was worried for a while. She's now a healthy 10 year old
Walking in a walker can't be compared to walking unassissted. My neice is 14 months. She's been getting around in her walker for 4 months now, but shows no interest in walking yetIn a walker they're just pushing around with their feet. Its completely different to walking. Is she pulling herself up on things?
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By a walker I meant an A-frame that she pulls herself up on and struts around. I know 13.5 months isn't old for walking, my son didn't walk until 15 months but he wasn't interested like she was, everyone thought she'd be walking by 11 months the way she just got up and started pushing furniture around but it hasn't happened. As an isolated event I wouldn't worry, but coupled with her stopping growing...
she's only 7.7kgs. She's so little everyone thinks she's 6 months old.
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if it makes you feel better DD1 was 8.6kg at 12 months and just over 10kg at 18 months
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My son didn't put on weight for a year. Then he put on 2kgs in under a month.
Sent from my Galaxy S3 so please excuse errors.
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Dd1 stayed under 10kgs until she was 18 months, she stayed the same weight for about 6 months. She was still wearing 000 on her 1st birthday and only just hit 20kg recently just before turning 5.
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Phie is same age. She is some times walking on her own but mostly with holding hands. We thought she would walk same as the boys- well before 1year but nope. She doesn't talk but babbles. Eats alot but was 9.8kg last week. At her 12month she was 8.4kg so i been kinda pushing eating. Phie was late getting teeth, so i have been making sure she's full when she stops eating, not just bored and snacks and milk.
I give our kids probiotcs to help with their tummys.
If she didn't like the food i think you'll find she will catch up fast, a month or 2. but a check up never hurt.
Sorry if it doesn't make sense, the barefoot princess is covering me with kisses
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She hasn't grown in 3 months
About the weight..... My Dd is 2 and only weighs just over 10kg! Nothing to worry about there :-)
You can buy polydule from the chemist and sprinkle it in her food or if she is having any cows milk it can go in there... They use it with the elderly to keep them well nourished. It doesn't replace a healthy diet but it helps keep some weight on them.
This was recommended to me by my mchn from a dietician she spoke to when my son (who is now 4 yrs) was just 12 months old and fell right off the graph for his weight :-0. Instead of judging she sought some advice from a dietician on my behalf which was lovely!
I would def start by having a 12 month check tho and voice any concerns you have and go from there :-)
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I'd not worry too much. My DD who just turned 5yo weighs under 16 kg and has hovered around there for about 2 yrs now. She was a slow weight gainer and dropped into the 5th percentile quickly. I used to stress about it but there was nothing I could do. DD is just a small eater and is petite. Given your DD eats meat and other foods plus still BF I don't think there is anything else to do.
I relation to the walking, they do that in their own time, something clicks and off they go!
If it is truly bothering you, get a referral to a pead. GL
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First of all, go with your gut. If you feel something might be wrong get her checked.
Having said that, here is our story.
DS was a very fast grower. We were buying a new outfit every week to keep up with him.
Then he hit 10 months and just stopped. He wasnt gaining weight, he wasnt getting longer, his head wasn't growing. He stayed at 9.5kgs for months.
I took him to a few doctors and they told me he was fine. His out put was normal and he was still I'm the "normal" range for development.
By his 1st birthday he was 9.9kgs. He had gained 400 grams in 4ever months. That small amount could have just been a difference in the time of day our whether he had eaten before he was weighed!
He wasnt really talking -only said mum dad and car
He walked at 18months.
Started copying words at 22 months.
By his second birthday he was 12kg. He wore the same shirts/ clothes from when he was 10months until he was 2 years old.
His language has since developed quickly.
He's now 3 and speaks in short sentences that he has constructed himself. He is only 14kgs but has had a few huge growth spurts in the last few months. He hasn't gained weight but he is growing in length very quickly. Every time I buy a pair of pants he's out grown the legs in a couple of weeks. He is skinny but healthy. He rarely gets sick and he is a happy energetic little boy.
I found it so hard not to compare him to what his peers were doing, what the books said he should be doing and taking him to doctors to make sure there was nothing wrong with him. But he was just doing it in his own time. I wasted so much time obsessing over what he "should" be doing that I couldn't enjoy what he WAS doing.
Not saying this is the case for you, definately get her checked over and follow your instincts. But try not to let it consume you, enjoy her as she is, because, sadly, you never get that time again.
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Thank you everyone, I guess they come in all shapes and sizes.
To be honest I'm less concerned about her health and more concerned with what the doctor will say. I'm confident she is strong and there's nothing actually wrong, so I will try to convey my confidence at her check up.
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This is something to really think about. They compare your child to a 'norm' from who knows what era?!
I found it so hard not to compare him to what his peers were doing, what the books said he should be doing and taking him to doctors to make sure there was nothing wrong with him. But he was just doing it in his own time. I wasted so much time obsessing over what he "should" be doing that I couldn't enjoy what he WAS doing.
Not saying this is the case for you, definately get her checked over and follow your instincts. But try not to let it consume you, enjoy her as she is, because, sadly, you never get that time again.
Mummy instinct is a very powerful force. I think if your DD was sick constantly & looking unwell then there would be cause for concern. Best of luck at the Dr's
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I know what u mean. Ds2 is tiny and not very strong but he's smart and funny and full of beans. We've had failure to thrive lectures all his life and when the Dr said dd was under weight i almost lost it lol.
You know your child the best. Hugs
Sorry if it doesn't make sense, the barefoot princess is covering me with kisses
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