Moving....but dont know which way to go! need an outsiders opinion :)

[mummy2chloe]

So we have just over 3 weeks to move......the lease on this house runs out on the 5/04/11. sorry if this is all over the place, i am a little stressed and have NO IDEA which way to move

Ok DH has been working away on and off for nearly 4 yrs and right now he is working back in central QLD and i am in beaudesert, he works nearly 1000 klms away but he has a great roster, he works 7 on and then 7 off which is awesome.

So here is the problem, i want to move to where he is working, rent is cheap but the house is "post war" and is very very old and yukky!!! BUT thats ok, i would live in a tent if it meant we were together again, like a normal family. i can turn anything into a home
The school would be smaller so dd would get alot of help and wouldnt "slip through the cracks" like she has since moving here. BUT its such a little town there is NOTHING there, but thats ok as long as we are a family and together, thats all that matters! we would save money living together, no flights or fuel money to come home, no more massive phone bills from calling each other all the time, plus the rent there is so cheap!

BUT

DD and DH want us to go to the beach to live, the rent is around the same as what we are paying now, but its a brand new house, 4 bed,2 bath very very nice house, plus there is the beach, shopping centres, cinemas, friends that live around the area and has more to offer BUT it means we would still be living apart and thats what i struggle with most of the time! i miss him so dearly and hate being alone. but he would only be just over 3 hrs away, but still apart.

all of my very close friends have said " move to the beach" and so is dd & dh....seems i am the only one " feeling stuck" with which way to go i just miss him so much and hate living apart so very much

help!! what would you do?

my instincts is " we are a family and we should stick together"
or am i being a sook and need to suck it up and go to the good house in the good area and just get over the fact that we are apart

this is doing my head in!!!!!!!!!

please help

[cakester69]

To be honest I would move with DH I dont know how I could libe apart from DH for weeks on end we like each others company so much, but if its working then its up to you. Have you discussed this with DH I know the beach sounds great but you wouldnt be living there all the time and there will be times that you need your DH company. The beach isnt everything. You have to think of the family until itself rather than move just because the area is better does your DD miss her dad and most of all do you miss him maybe list all the pros and cons of both moves and then discuss it as a family and think of all the money you could save to do things as a family when he isnt working.
good luck with your decision I hope my comment helps

[mummy2chloe]

Thank you so much for your quick reply

I think the decision it made, i want to be with my dh every night, the last few years has been so hard without him and everytime he goes back to work i always cry! i am sick of crying, i am sick of being alone, i am sick of missing him, i am sick of having to defend for myself, i am sick of being mummy, daddy, protector, fixer and running this whole house and family on my own! i am a married woman but most of the time i feel like a single mum

i am moving to where he is

thank you for your kind words they have helped heaps!

[berrme]

Sounds like all you needed was one person to agree with you. I would move to be with DH too.

Good luck with the move!

[Ahurani]

I think Id move with DH too. I couldnt stand being alone that long

[mummy2chloe]

its very hard being alone
everyone kept telling me " it will get better as time goes on " ........yeah no!! it hasnt gotten any easier it breaks my heart everytime he has to go back!! DD misses him heaps to but she is sort of use to it IYKWIM, he has been doing it for so long that it doesnt really affect her that much.......plus she loves sleeping in mums bed when dads at work lol

i just needed to hear from someone that moving to a s*itty little town "is ok" and that dd will be fine, with the small school and nothing to do in the town! i grew up in a small town and it was that bad! plus on dh days off we can go to the beach

[trishalishous]

To be honest I would move with DH I dont know how I could libe apart from DH for weeks on end we like each others company so much, but if its working then its up to you. Have you discussed this with DH I know the beach sounds great but you wouldnt be living there all the time and there will be times that you need your DH company. The beach isnt everything. You have to think of the family until itself rather than move just because the area is better does your DD miss her dad and most of all do you miss him maybe list all the pros and cons of both moves and then discuss it as a family and think of all the money you could save to do things as a family when he isnt working.
good luck with your decision I hope my comment helps

same. we hated working apart, and that was before kids!
id move to the work town, then holiday at the beach when his week off and school holidays match up.

[Floweryfields]

My honest opinion is it is not great long term for a marriage to be appart so much - I think you should move in with him. ETA Oops, helps to read to the end of the thread first! Hope it all works out for you soon!

[MrsBexie]

I can understand why you wouldn't want to rent in Emerald, prices are pretty high up there! BUT, after the flood, you might be able to find something that is a short term rental, so you could then get out sooner if you find something over in Springsure. Coming over here (Btown) would be even more insane with the average rental in town being $750 per week, plus you want to stay away from here too don't you? I would suggest Comet, but finding rental there would be worse than Springsure, plus you would have to travel to take DD to school everyday Actually, i think they have a school at Comet? Handful of students so plenty of one on one attention there. I think you would have an easier time buying some land around Comet then renting there..

Does Nathan have a workmate who has their MR/HR licence and would help out for a weekend, throw in some beer, a bbq or something similiar when you are settled in to say thankyou maybe?

Another option could be to ring some real estate agents in Emerald,& Blackwater and see if they deal with rentals in Springsure. Ask them to take your details down just in case someone comes in with a rental?? Also what about Housing Qld (Housing Commission?) I'm sure they have places in Springsure. as to if there are any available or not? i don't know?

Does the minesite have their own rentals out there? Sometimes they will hand out short term accommodation of 6-12 months. Though I think it is more for the management/OCE types..but worth a try, and you never know, a friendly chat with an office girl might give you some helpful info. There is always someone who has a house to rent in these towns that never make it past a friendly chat in the street to a real estate agent.

Get Nathan to put a notice up on the board at work.

And finally, I will try my hardest to get out tomorrow and get the Emerald paper and see if there are any Springsure rentals listed in there for you

Great ideas!!
With the truck, can you gey the next size down where you don't need a special license? I know there is a smaller truck anyone could drive, it may mean more trips but that's gotta be cheaper than renting!!
sweets... I honestly wish and pray that something awesome comea up fpr you!!
Xx

[nic]

Ok, so I got the Emerald paper, hoping to find something in there and there was nothing I thought there might be something in the notices, something private maybe? but no... The only thing i found was a house for sale in springsure...
there is a story about how the Mayor is disgusted that the rent in Emerald has soared after the flood...So that may not be such a great option to go there?

I did see a notice that someone put in the paper looking for a rental, or caretaking of property, so that could be something else to do to..place an add, mention you have a dog (this ad mentioned their dogs) you want something for 6-12 months or shorter/longer and see if anyone replies...you never know, someone may be sitting out there thinking about doing something like this, and your ad could be what they are looking for

[mummy2chloe]

awwww nic your such a sweetie xxx

thank you so much for going and getting the paper! Had a massive talk with nathan last night and we have decided that i will still try and get a house at the beach, at least its still getting us closer and hopefully it wont be to long before something comes available out at springsure!
I really dont want to live to close to B'water cos as you know nic.....my ex hubby and allllll of his family still live there and i really really really dont want to be anywhere near them lol springsure is still to close for comfort lol but thank you anyway comet would of been great, cos i still have alot of friends there....but way to close!

Also nathan is going to go and get his MR truck licence next week, so thats a bonus which will come in handy for when i do finally move out to springsure....we wont need to get anyone to help us, we can do it all ourselves wooohoo!

Mrs Bexie thank you hun, for your help and coming back in here to offer more support xxx you, nic and rach are allllllllll awesome xxxx

[nic]

No probs DS had a great time standing on the highway corner watching the trains and trucks drive past...I think he thought that's all I went to the papershop for lol..
The beach sounds good, like you said, at least it gets you all closer. Is Nathan allowed to drive home after shift finish or does he have to hang around in camp for a few hours first?
BIG YAY for getting the MR licence too..

[mummy2chloe]

thanks again nic lol your ds sounds sooooo cute!! any chance you feel like sending me a " brucie's pizza" mmmmmmmm mumma roses lol only thing i miss about b'water lol

Nathan will have to stick around for a few hours first, then will come home and it looks like he will be travelling with another fella that lives around yeppoon too! so thats a bonus, ya gotta love a "car crew"

[aussienic]

I would move with my Dh. I think being a family unit is more important..

Can I ask where you are looking to move too (pm me if you want) I am in CQ

[aussienic]

ok so ignore my last post lol... Should have read through all the replies first

and wow emerald is really exxy isn't it.. sheesh..

Has he asked his employers about removalists and accomodation?? They can help out if they have the contacts

[~*Niadalla*~]

I live in a small town..... ( LOL I wouldn't even call it a town.... its got one house within the city limits signs and it's not even mine! )
I have found around these rural parts, there are usually many empty houses but people aren't really that fussed about renting them out as such. There are many more people around here who prefer the private rental thing, otherwise are happy to just leave places empty.
Does the place you are wanting to go to have a local paper/newsletter? I wanted to find a rental a little closer to my ILs, so I wacked an ad in the local newsletter and got 10 phone calls within the first 3 days. We were offered a house very cheaply that we will be moving into in April/May. There was not one advertised rental within a 100km radius of where I am now and had I not put something in the newsletter, we'd never have found out about any of them.

Good luck!! I hope something pops up for you very soon.

[MrsBexie]

I live in a small town..... ( LOL I wouldn't even call it a town.... its got one house within the city limits signs and it's not even mine! )
I have found around these rural parts, there are usually many empty houses but people aren't really that fussed about renting them out as such. There are many more people around here who prefer the private rental thing, otherwise are happy to just leave places empty.
Does the place you are wanting to go to have a local paper/newsletter? I wanted to find a rental a little closer to my ILs, so I wacked an ad in the local newsletter and got 10 phone calls within the first 3 days. We were offered a house very cheaply that we will be moving into in April/May. There was not one advertised rental within a 100km radius of where I am now and had I not put something in the newsletter, we'd never have found out about any of them.

Good luck!! I hope something pops up for you very soon.

That's a very good idea!!! Maybe try that?

Oh and YAY to the MR license!

[nic]

ok so ignore my last post lol... Should have read through all the replies first

and wow emerald is really exxy isn't it.. sheesh..

Has he asked his employers about removalists and accomodation?? They can help out if they have the contacts

Yep, rental prices in these towns are outrageous! My DH is lucky to receive a rent allowance in his pay, which is based on the 'average' rental in town, according to the REIQ (currently it is $750 per week average) There are houses where the drive in use to be, that are being rented for $1000 per week and they look like styrofoam walls that just click in to place on the floor...kid you not!