Scooby, first of all sorry you had such a difficult birth with #1.
Just wanted to say my stepmother had 3 c/sections for reasons I won't go into, always recovered amazingly well - I was surprised to find out that recovery is 6 weeks as she always bounced straight back and after a week in the hospital was at home looking after her kids and showed no ill effects at all. All three were fully breastfed from Day 1. So I think it just depends on the person, and you can have a swift and full recovery and establish BFing after a c/section. If you have decided this is right for you (and to be honest, in your shoes I would do the same) then go ahead and be confident that you will recover quickly.