Thanks for the replies. I asked my DH last night what he thought about the debrief and 1. he though talk to the OB, and 2. he said it was pretty clear than nothing was happening (I did not dilate past 4cm, and my waters had been broken for 24hrs) - so it was the best option. I'm not sure about talking to the Ob, I dont know that he will be objective as I know that he is pro c-section (I did not have any choice but to go to him, and really we were happy with his care). I guess I want some independence in the option. I guess that I'll just sit on it for a bit longer and ponder what to do. I think that if we were to have another baby I would really need to sort this out before the birth!