Nat - we wont judge you at all. Ive had 3 c/s now - my first was an emergency and I took me 4 weeks to recove. My second was an elective and took me about 2 weeks to recover but my 3rd was an emergency and I honestly had no pain, nothing after the op. I think it depends on you at the time. YOu hav eto do what is best, its just not easy when you feel like your choice has been taken away, especially after wanting a VBAC. Did the doctors give you an explanation to why they wanted you to have another c/s? With my second, I was all set for a VBAC but the little bugger tried to come at 32 weeks and tore my previous c/s scar internally so I had to have a planned c/s...I was absolutely mortified so I know were your coming form.
PLease try and stay positive....as hard as it is. Come in here and 'down load' if you have to...dont keep the feelings inside, we're all here for you and each other