Feeling like a failure (yet again) c-section

[Katstribe]

Oh well think of it this way, if it is twins at least you only have to have one c-sec to get two bubs!!!!!!
They always say to look on the bright side......... lol

I can't wait to hear though.

[maz]

Well girls - only 80 something days to go and the nerves are starting to kick in.
Sunshine is growing and im the size of a whale. Ive had alot of pain on my c/s scar. Have been told by the ob not to travel anywere in December due to my early labour history. My c/s is booked in for the 8th of January and it still doesnt make the situation any easier.
I dont realise how far I am until read about all your lovely ladies being pg. Its scares me even more.
I wish all of you the best of luck in the world guys and im here for you all like yourve been for me

[joralyd]

I'm hoping I'll go into labour before my planned C date of the 18th just to remind me what it's like I know I'll still have to have an emergency C but hey least I got some labour pains with it!
I feel like it's ages away Maz! but I too am as big as a house will I pop before christmas?? I guess It'll feel with in reach in a month when dh is on holidays.
I'm feeling anxious too though about the op but really excited about meeting bubby.

[Katstribe]

Hey maz wow time does fly doesn't it! Your little sunshine will be in your arms before you know it.. I can imagine how your nerves are, i can't think of anything worse than a c-sec, and i honestly think the recovery gets harder as we get older too!!!! Thats prob not what you want to hear, just make sure you have areally good support network for after bub comes home !!!!!!

I can't believe that i am already 12 weeks PG with my little surprise (make that big i don't think it has sunk in properly yet)!!!!!
Well i asked the doc that did my c-sec last time what he thought of me going natural with this bub, and then held my breath and wished i had blocked my ears too!!!!! He said they would PREFER me to have an elective c-sec as then they know the staff are there and its no hassle!!!!! Then he says ultimately the decision is mine and IF i shoose to leave it and go into labour and try to have bub naturally they can't stop me but they would NOT be held responsible for anything that may (or may not) go wrong!!!!!!!
IT really SH#TS me, he tells me the bd things that can go wrong in a natural but don't say nothing about the risks with another c-sec !!!! So typical of docs, i have never had trouble birthing naturally before and the only reasons for my 2 c-secs were the first - toxcemia so a emergancy c-sec, and the second was because bub was breech!!!!
I am planning on talking to the midwives at the hospital to see what their opinion is as i have had health nurses locally say not to let them (docs) bully me into another c-sec just because its easier for them! So i will be highly interested in what the midwives have to say!!!

Sorry for the rant everyone but its soooo frustrating! They don't care about what we go through its just whats easier for them!!!
Anyway io shall leave it at that for now and will chat again soon!!!!

CHeers
Kat

[maz]

OH Kat that would be truely wonderful!!! Midwives are open to listening atleast and i so hope you get a good one. I sometimes think Doctors only think of the $$ involved rather then patients feelings and hopes ( IM probably wrong but thats what I like to tell myself) IM worried now to cause my placenta is at the front which will make having a c/s harder apparently..hmmmm You so have to let us know what the MW says to this all..I would be so interested in finding out.
Tiff - I scrubbed my floors on my hands and knees the day I went into early labour and the buggers made me have an emergency c/s anyway. Jed said he's watching me like a hawk this time for my signs hahahahaha, Ive got a New Years feeling in my bones....I had a feeling with Vy that i'd have her August, I went into labour the day after Jed's 30th birthday and they stopped it on me..I was still in the danger period so I didnt mind but god it scares the cr@p out of me everytime. Even more now cause so many people hav etold me they cant believe how big I am already aswell and these dame Braxton hicks!!!!

[Katstribe]

Hey Maz i will definately keep you informed of what they think! I hope they are more psoitive then the doc! I soooo agree with you on the fact that they look at the $$$$ plus i think its more convenient for tehm too as they don't get called in when they are at home IYKWIM! Thats how he made me feel anyway!
I don't envy you with braxton hicks already either! You will have to just kick back and relax more ( ROFLMAO) like thats possible!!!!

[joralyd]

Sorry for the rant everyone but its soooo frustrating! They don't care about what we go through its just whats easier for them!!!

Kat I hear ya!! rant away I had the same issue with my second I had to have a C cause bubby was breech and I had an emergency C with my first.
This baby is breech or transvers and I don't see him/her turning anytime soon so even if I did find a dr that would let me birth naturally (haha that's a joke) baby would have to do some pretty quick and tricky moves to turn around as there's not much room in here left.
I hope you get a really nice m/w sometimes we just need that back up instead of all the facts and risks layed out on the table some dr's really lack compation that's for sure!

Maz I don't fancy going till the 18th I think baby will be too squished by then, I hope we do go early just not too early of course might have to do the floor scrub trick around new year maby some nippy stimulation too, just not at the same time ROTFL!
Whats the danger period??

[maz]

Tiff - PMSL having visions of you rubbing your nipples with the scrubbing brush..sorry....heheheh I went into labour just after 36 weeks with Vy and they told me it was very dangerous right then...dont know why but they said 37 weeks onwards would be better.....so I gather you and I will be scrubbing the new year in together ROFL
Kat - sit and and relax...thats what I should be doing now...hahahahahah

[joralyd]

ok it's a date! new year scrubbing with some nippy rubs ... ewwww and Ouuuuch on the scrubbing brush on the nips

[maz]

I cold do with the scrubbing brush on mine right now...im sick of them being so itchy!!!!!

[Hoody]

Hi girls.
Just thought i'd come in and say hi, I had an emergency CS with my DD after 15 hours of labour due to various reasons. This time around i was hoping for a VBAC but wasnt really getting much support from anyone. I went and had my 34 week check up today and have been advised on having another CS so it is booked in for the 13/11 only 4 weeks to go. I am in 2 minds about this. I am excited and relieved to know i will not be having an emergency one again etc, i feel more in control but on the other hand i'm already feeling like a failure esp as i was keen on VBAC i am also worried about the recovery as my DD will be jsut 20 months. DH works for himself so the more time he takes off the harder financially it will be for us and i dont want to burden him. I have heard that a scheduled CS vs an emergency is often alot more positive and recovery wise may be easier......not sure about that but i guess we'll see. Well thats it from me just thought i'd share with you all as you may all understand a bit more than ppl who havent had Previous CS or electing to have one. I am scarred of been judged IYKWIM for taking what ppl seem to think is the easy way out.

[maz]

Nat - we wont judge you at all. Ive had 3 c/s now - my first was an emergency and I took me 4 weeks to recove. My second was an elective and took me about 2 weeks to recover but my 3rd was an emergency and I honestly had no pain, nothing after the op. I think it depends on you at the time. YOu hav eto do what is best, its just not easy when you feel like your choice has been taken away, especially after wanting a VBAC. Did the doctors give you an explanation to why they wanted you to have another c/s? With my second, I was all set for a VBAC but the little bugger tried to come at 32 weeks and tore my previous c/s scar internally so I had to have a planned c/s...I was absolutely mortified so I know were your coming form.
PLease try and stay positive....as hard as it is. Come in here and 'down load' if you have to...dont keep the feelings inside, we're all here for you and each other

[joralyd]

Hey Nat welcome to our little C group (we'll have to think of a name LOL ) I had an emergency with my first and second was an elective cause baby was breech and no ob would trial labour as you can understand. This time of course unless I go home birth YIKES! I have to take my lot and have another planned C. It took me about the same amount of time to recover with both but the planned C was just sooo much better emotionally and physicaly as I had a spinal not a general and my body didn't labour for 24hrs prior. I totally understand your feelings I felt the same way. No judging here just understanding
How long does your dh plan to take off? maybe cooking some meels to put in the freezer for when you come home, plus you could set up your lounge with everything you'll need to limit your movements through the day if dh can't be home. Try not to stress yourself too much things will work out.

[Hoody]

Just had a thought and was wondering if anyone can help me......because of the dr's advice today etc i have booked in my CS as you've prob read in my earlier post but now i am thinking about $$$. MIght sound a bit silly or maybe naive but i just dont know really where i stand. I am a public patient and basically get whatever ob is available on the day. Will i have any out of pocket expenses? All the girls i know that have had repeat CS's have had private health cover.
Thankyou Maz and Joralyd for replying so promptly to my last post its nice to know there are other ppl out there having elective cs for whatever their reasons may be that have no judgment.

[joralyd]

hmmm Nat I'm private too so I really am not sure but you could ring the hospital to find out I'm sure they can tell you.

[aussienic]

I just wanted to join in here if thats ok .. I am having my 3rd c.s. ( 2nd elective) in just a little over 6 weeks..

[aussienic]

Just had a thought and was wondering if anyone can help me......because of the dr's advice today etc i have booked in my CS as you've prob read in my earlier post but now i am thinking about $$$. MIght sound a bit silly or maybe naive but i just dont know really where i stand. I am a public patient and basically get whatever ob is available on the day. Will i have any out of pocket expenses? All the girls i know that have had repeat CS's have had private health cover.
Thankyou Maz and Joralyd for replying so promptly to my last post its nice to know there are other ppl out there having elective cs for whatever their reasons may be that have no judgment.

hi Nat I wasn't out of pocket at all. I went public for all my pregnancies and not once did I have to pay for anything... 2 of my sons have been in special care as well and no cost there either

[krisp]

Just wanted to ask any previous CS mum a quick question. 2 girls from my Playgroup had their babies in the last week both by elective (on OB advice) CS. They were really surprised that I was going to try for a VBAC and tht my OB was "letting" me go full term. Both had their CS at 38 weeks, one was advised that she risked tearing her scar if she went full term. Neither Mum was "allowed' to go to 40 weeks.

Am I crazy? My OB has never mentioned anything about trying to get me into labour early. She has however said that she won't induce me (other than to break my water at 40 weeks if my cervix was favourable) and she would rather me not go to 42 weeks like I did with my DS but that we would "cross that bridge when we came to it". She has always told me that I could VBAC and their was no reason that it all wouldn't happen just as we plan. But now I'm getting a bit scared as the time ticks away and especially after talking to these 2 girls. Are their OB's just being over cautious do you think?