I think when things don't go to plan we feel alot of guilt, regret and dissapointment even when it's out of our control. To me it "seems" all these women can have babies the natural way and I failed! kwim? I do feel a little ashamed and some what judged but at the same time I have 2 healthy babies that I am sooo grateful for, reguardless of how they were born. My first would have died had I gone any longer in labour and without a C/S, that some people view as unecessary, my boy would not be here.
Your choice to have an elective C no matter what the reason shouldn't be judged or debated unless you ask for it other than that it's your choice and it should be supported. I think that's the only way we'll stop the guilt and failure some c/s mothers experience. It sometimes feels like the view is giving birth is a test of your strength, we all congratulate the poor mum who laboured for 30hrs with NO pain relief but there isn't much pride for the mum who had a 20 min cut on the op table even though she's endured emotional pain kwim?
Anyway that's my view not everyones and since I've had 2 C's i figure that gives me the right to have my view

Maz I'm so sorry you've had such an emotional journey, it's fantastic you have your hubbies love and support and 3 (soon to be 4) munchkins to addore It's not easy being a woman but I couldn't imagine being a man eww PMSL