Don't let other people let you feel this way. Yes, you will be judged, birth is one of those things that people get very hot under the collar about. But you're right - it's your decision! You've made a decision that you are happy with, comfortable with, and that you feel secure in. Isn't that better than going into a VBAC terrified? I think it is. Being informed and confident in ones choices, to me, will have a lot more of a positive impact on a woman than whether their baby comes out of the sunroof or not. I'm sure you'll come up against some negativity with your decision, but hey, we all do, from elective c-sections to homebirthing. The important thing is how you feel about it...and then all that negativity will become water off a ducks back
ETA, I'm sure Teni won't mind me saying this (I hope!). She chose to be induced at 38 weeks. Do I think she made the right call for her and her bub at the time? I totally do. The mental anguish she was putting herself through waiting to go into labour...I can't even imagine. It certainly isn't healthy, all that stress and fear. She had a hard labour but she pulled through it magnificently. Although I know for a fact that she would do things differently next time, I'm always one to stress to her that she made a call that was right for her and her family. I am her biggest fan for that. I know many women who have/will make this call. I can't exactly stand here and be so passionate about HB, for example, if I can't also be passionate about the fact that women *have the right to choose*, whatever side of the fence they are finding themselves on. You sound confident and I k ow you are informed in your decision, you've weighed up all the risks etc and this is where you're at. And to me it sounds like you're in a good space to birth this baby in a manner in which you feel safe
Last edited by PumpkinZulu; September 3rd, 2011 at 12:27 PM.
No one can judge you hun unless they have walked in your shoes. For what it's worth I think I would probably strongly consider the same thing in your circumstances
I'm sorry you are feeling this way, especially so early in your pregnancy
You know you are making the right decision for you and your baby and thats all that matters. Unfortunately no matter what decisions you make regarding you pregnancy and birth, there will always be people who disagree and feel the need to tell you about it. If only people could keep their opinions to themselves!
All the best for your pregnancy and good luck with not letting other peoples issues get you down
Darling, you've made the right choice for you. As comfortable as you are with your decision, sadly others will want to disagree or judge you. I know you probably want to ignore their opinions, but it's easier said than done.
I hope we can all help override some of the negativity you're copping with our support and positivity. You're so strong, so courageous, but I wish you didn't have to be.
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