I am so sorry that your daughter passed away and that you have had so many problems following your CS

I can't give you information from personal experience, but my sister was pregnant only 5 months following her CS and although she had a repeat CS this was through choice, her doctor was more than willing to support a VBAC if she had wanted. The difference is that she did not have any wound complications that may have set healing back further. There is no hard and fast rule about how long is safe between pregnancies, different doctors will say different things (some say a year, others 3 months). I think you need a 2nd opinion from a doctor who can examine your wound, and give you proper information about how healed it is. Also perhaps speak to SANDS as they will have met mothers in your situation and may be able to give some good advice.