My Caesarean Scar says...

[forshelby]

Do you know one thing that really peeves me?? When words and statements like "failure", "unnatural" and "didn't give birth" find their way into discussions about caesarean births. We should be proud. To be anything else is, in my opinion, doing all of us a disservice.

So............... I should be proud that I was failed by my care providers? I should be proud that they were so eager to butcher me? I should be proud that I didn't stand up for myself? I'm sorry, but THAT statement irritates me. If I'm doing myself a disservice by feeling ripped off, then so be it. What about the coma? Should I be proud of that too? The fact that I was unable to care for my newborn son in any way for nearly a week after his birth? How about the fact that I was too drugged to even cry when I saw him for the first time?

The truth is, I do feel like a failure. I did not give birth. Yes my baby was birthed, but not by me. It IS unnatural to pump a woman full of drugs to get her uterus to contract, then to slice her open because she's taking too long to dialate. I can't think of anything more unnatural than that. In the cases where c/s is neccesary, then of course these women would be grateful, and at peace with their birth experience. I am not.

And you know what? I'll feel how I want!

[MummaSue]

I love my scar. It's actually healed so well that it's two tiny little lines now.

My scar doesn't say anything. But I say to my scar "thank goodness I live in a day and age where there is medical intervention otherwise neither me nor my baby would be here today".

[nothing2lose]

Forshelby, you have quoted me out of context. But yes, I think you should feel proud that you endured and survived what you did to bring your baby earthside.