It makes me sad to read that, like me, so many women feel like they/their body failed them. I really try not to feel like this as it adds to my poor self image, when rationally no one but me really cares how I birthed my babes. The scar in itself doesn't make me feel this way. in fact my second scar (on top of the first) makes me wonder if I could have vaginally birthed my DS without trauma as it was extended mid operation due to shoulder dystocia. Gosh, if his shoulders couldn't come out the c/s incision, could I have ever VB him???? Who knows. The cord was also tightly wrapped around his neck twice.... I wonder how that would have impacted labour? Maybe my body didn't fail, but somehow by NOT going into labour protected my baby? These are things I think about when I'm telling myself I didn't fail. I was well informed and desperate not to have a c/s, I tried everything to turn my breech bub and then everything again to naturally induce labour when I was 12 days over trying for a VBAC. I consented to all interventions, my experiences were not traumatic or rushed. I was as prepared as i could be and feel I made the 'right' choice for my babies, but some days I still ache for the lost opportunity to have a VB.