Is there a cost for elective c/s?

[Charlotte91]

If I was to book in an elective c/s for no medical reason, would there be a cost?

[Maruschke]

Are you going public?

[Charlotte91]

Yeah, I am.

[Maruschke]

My hossy doesn't do them but if you are public and they offer electives, I can't see how you could pay??? I hope you are doing ok xoxo.

[Charlotte91]

I know my hospital does to a certain degree. I see my OB in 4 weeks and will be 36w by then so will be discussing it.
I don't feel strong enough for a VB, I'd rather go with what I know.

The thought of waiting for labour to happen, if it ever does, and then going through that, risking something happening to bub during labour, and then probably ending up on the table anyway is driving me nuts.

[FabFiona]

A public hospital is unlikely to do them unless there is a medical reason. Mental health would definitely be included in that.

It would free in a public hospital.

[HotI]

pretty sure there is no cost. It will be less difficult for you to get one Charlotte, because you had one for your first bub.

Are you ok? Are you feeling pressure from other people, or struggling more within yourself? It must be really difficult going full term after a prem baby.

Have been thinking of you heaps as you get closer to meeting your little one.

[Maruschke]

The thought of waiting for labour to happen, if it ever does, and then going through that, risking something happening to bub during labour, and then probably ending up on the table anyway is driving me nuts.

I think it is understandable to feel that way. I was under the impression hospitals can't force you to attempt a VBAC anyway?

[feeb]

No charge in a public hospital for anyone with medicare. You can have an elective CS as you have had a previous CS it is your choice. Good luck hun xoxo

[Charlotte91]

I honestly just don't want to attempt a VBAC anymore. DH is furious that I've changed my mind about how to deliver the baby.
Yes, I would be in hospital a bit longer, but as people keep reminding me I don't know how to deal with a newborn.. It's better to stay as long as I can so I figure it out. Alot of people, especially around my hometown, are "once a c/s, always a c/s" type of people
I bounced back very fast after my last c/s and was off all pain medication after 42 hours.
Sometimes it's just better to go with what you know, rather than go blindly into the unknown.

[PumpkinZulu]

Oh Char.

Is a c/s truly what you want, or do you just not want the fear and unknown of labour and vaginal birth? At the end of the day, the choice you make must be the one you ultimately feel the most comfortable with, but from your post, you just sound really scared. The unknown *is* a scary thing, especially after what you've been through, so I totally understand that. But is a c/s something you may come to regret months or years down the line. I so wish you had someone there to really support you, either way.

ETA we posted at the same time. I guess all I can add, is the people who are telling you you don't know how to deal with a newborn are full of it. Nobody knows how to deal with a newborn, I didn't. You just learn. I asked the midwife to dress DD because I was scared of hurting her! Big hugs. I'm so sorry you've lost your confidence

[Charlotte91]

I'm not scared, I'm just exhausted. I want an 'end date' and want the baby here.

I'm just emotionally exhausted.

[Maruschke]

I honestly just don't want to attempt a VBAC anymore. DH is furious that I've changed my mind about how to deliver the baby.
Yes, I would be in hospital a bit longer, but as people keep reminding me I don't know how to deal with a newborn.. It's better to stay as long as I can so I figure it out. Alot of people, especially around my hometown, are "once a c/s, always a c/s" type of people
I bounced back very fast after my last c/s and was off all pain medication after 42 hours.
Sometimes it's just better to go with what you know, rather than go blindly into the unknown.

Sorry to hear about your DH's reaction, perhaps he needs time to absorb the change? I don't think you need to defend your choice to anyone, just feel comfortable in yourself and do what you need to do.

[PumpkinZulu]

I'm not scared, I'm just exhausted. I want an 'end date' and want the baby here.

I'm just emotionally exhausted.

I understand. I thought you sounded scared when you were saying about things going wrong in labour and needing a c/s anyway, I took from that you were scared of vaginal birth. At the end of the day, no matter how your DH feels, he needs to get on board and support you. I hope he does.

[HotI]

Char, i will support you whatever decision you make. There are benefits in allowing baby to choose his own birthday and i can give information to help you work through if that is what you want.

Likewise, if you have decided that you definitely want a c section then i can get you information to help it be a good experience, and tips to give you the best start to breastfeeding etc. (i know you have said you want to breastfeed this bub)

Did you find talking to the IM helpful at all?

[FabFiona]

Hugs. Sounds like you are a rough place at the moment.

I have nothing to add, but hope you find peace with whatever you decide.

[Charlotte91]

I know that it's my choice whether I VBAC or not.

I'll admit, not happily, that I am 'scared' of the unknown and would rather have a cs than go through a VBAC not knowing whats going on.

I woke up the other day and it hit me like a tonne of bricks that this isn't going to work. It's not a loss of confidence, it's reality. I couldn't even birth a 3lb baby, how the hell am I meant to push out a 7lb'er??
I'm getting BHs that take my breath away. How am I meant to go through labour?
No matter how many times I listen to my calmbirthing tracks, I just don't get into it enough. So have realised that it's not the path for me.

I've tried contacting that IM a few times and had no luck so given up.

DD has been so difficult lately, I don't know how I'm going to deal with 2. I don't see the baby coming home with us anyway. I'm having nightmares that something will happen to him. That's why I want him out of me. I have a history of not keeping babies safe.

I'm not going to plan or think about bub's delivery until my scan in 10 days because it's that scan ultimately that will decided whether a VBAC is an option or not.

[Maruschke]

Have you considered talking to a mw who has experience in mental health? Some of them are really great, they understand the fears and anxiety of women who have been through stressful previous pregnancies and births. Find someone you can trust and speak to them about how you are feeling . Regardless of how you birth, I think it would be beneficial to chat, and maybe even plan for what to happen if these feelings resurface post birth. Thinking of you, this path isn't an easy one. xoxo