My DP has a daughter with his ex and they both currently live in the US.
I guess my perspective is this - the amount of CS he is paying is not very much but presumably it has been assessed properly and that's what he should be paying. Based on that minimal amount, I wouldn't think he has much to pay for private schooling, though having said that, I'm not sure how much her schooling would cost. So despite his verbal agreement, I think you just have to decide whether you and DH can afford it without help from him.
But I definitely wouldn't tell her.
We have had a similar issue with DP's ex. My step-daughter came to live with us for eight months last year and DP's ex refused to pay a cent even though DP has religiously paid $500 per month in CS while his daughter lived with his ex. So while it was very tempting for both of us to tell her that her mom was an unfair, deadbeat so and so, we honestly didn't think that was fair to lumber her with a problem that should be between the adults to sort out.
i chose catholic private school as it's the cheapest. High School will cost (inc fees, books, uniforms etc) $4K pa... so $2K each or $38 a week.
I don't think that's too much to find.. I mean.. we all live on a budget.. and there's always ways to squeez money.
We drive a crappy 14 yo car as we don't believe in credit or loans and can'r afford to buy a new one just yet... but they have a 4yo ford and about a 8 yo holden.. so to me.. i just think they don't budget and my DD misses out..
I forgot to mention before.. the dental work was 2 extractions, 2 crowns, 4 fissure sealings. I had relied on the school dental system and o boy... did they miss some major stuff that my local dentist diagnosed when I took her there for a tooth ache.
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