Kitt3n - your ex popping in and out of your DD's life when ever he feels like it is so incredibly disruptive to her, and to the rest of you! I so understand where you are coming from, having been through this situation myself. As BG suggested give the Family Relationships line a call. It is mandatory now that before any orders are put in place at court, an attempt must be made for mediation. Mediators will be acting in the best interest of the children. a counsellor is usually appointed to see the child as well. If you ex wont go to mediation, you will be given a certificate certifying that you have attempted mediation. the next step is going to court for the judge to decide. I really recommend you contacting FR - they incredibly helpful. if you need an ear that has walked this path, feel free to MSN me.