Kitten get in contact with the Family relationship centre They are fantastic... We have just been throgh medation with my DP EX wife as we would like more then 60 hours a month visition with DP DS.... Our situtation is the oppersite to yours as we have a court order in place from 3 yrs ago when DStepS was 1 and all that DP Ex wife would agree on was 2 over night stays a month n 2x 2 hour visits a month (we are pushing for 3 over night stays a week + other times) mediation worked well but a few days later DP Ex decided she wanted a letter from DP boss stating that he had the time off throughout the year for week long stays through the school hols and the medatior agreed with us when we refused it as she had now legal right to demand this sort of thing (her way of finding out where he works and so on) so we are now heading to court.... Anyway they will take into count your DD thoughts on the situation and make a parenting plan on wat EVERYONE agrees on ... they will nto force your DD to have sleepovers if she doesnt feel comfortable with it unlike the courts.....

As for the moving up the coast.... we stopped DP EX from moving interstate BUT also from moving DstepS out of the sunraysia district.... so the farest she can move is 100kms away without gettin into trouble but that is all written up in the court order..... has Your Ex got a order stating that you cant move interstate? if he does Does it only say interstate? coz if it does then i cant see why u cant move up the coast.......