What about 'the quiet corner' where he goes when he's naughty? he can only come out when he's calm and in a good mood..... I know that's hard though esp in the mornings when you're trying to get him to school etc... just a suggestion? A room in the house thats really boring and he has to sit there for 5-10mins until he calms down.... kids hate that!

What about The Nanny? Can you get a copy of her book? Know anyone with it? I've watched the shows and i think she's got some great ideas for dealing with tantrums etc in kids....

I liked some of the suggestions that PurpleMamma offered.....

hang in there, you're doing a GREAT job. You'll get thru it.