There isn't a hassel as such going to bed, its the going to sleep, he just lays there.
The bed time routine is this

8pm, Brush teeth get PJs on etc.
8.30 DH reads them a book in bed
Lights out & DH lays with them telling them a made up story then sneaks out when they are finally asleep.


The boys share a room & bed (their choice). Evan just can't fall asleep any earlier then 9.30 which is why bed time is at 8.30, no real point going in earlier. Plus our lives have made it so bed time happens around 8.30, earlier just wont work as DH often isn't home till 7/7.30 so it just makes it too hard to have them in bed earlier then 8.30