thanks so much for your reply michelle.

i think i know i should just give day care a go, but im just worried that if i give it a go and he hates it then he will be even more clingy with me cause he wont trust me any more. Am i just being ridiculous??? I probably am. the only person we have ever left him with for any length of time is my mum and its only recently that he has been able to happily wave us off instead of crying, and he knows my mum extremely well, what will he do with a complete stranger?!