thanks Lorelle! Yep, i agree with everything you said, it is a sacrific we make for our child and a very special one at that. But sometimes i wonder if i am doing Archie an injustice by NOT putting him inot care. I do lots of activities with other kids though, kindergym on Mondays, Library Tuesday, swimming lesson wednesdaya nd playgroup friday, and he is getting a lot more out going and not clingy at all, so i guess as long as i keep giving him plenty of opportunity to socialise with other kids, he will be fine.