Elissa I had another thought. At the centre where Darcy goes the girls there are right up my alley on lots pf parenting things. How they speak to the kids, what they do when they are upset, how they reproach them for being naughty etc. I have chatted at length with them, and love that if Darcy's having an 'off' day, someone sits with her and reads until she's happy to go off by herself. I think I wouldn't be so settled if I thought they were doingthings way diffeent than how I would choose IYKWIM?