I was thinking about this a bit and decided that I was confused. What is the OP about? Is it dismay that someone misjudged your approach to the reading program? Or do you judge those who do not encourage a reader a night?
I suspect that whatever the main point was, it was confounded by the bite-back judgment and now everyone's got their backs up.
Yes, it was unfair of this other mother to be so judgmental of how much your DD reads. Nuff said. Good on your DD for being so interested
No need to take someone down to build yourself up