Sorry but I really don't agree that any child who has this done is in no pain. I have read recent studies that have shown an infant who does not cry when the procedure is done is actually more likely to be in a state of shock and in withdrawl from such immense pain that they are physically unable to make a sound - rather than just being "fine". Also, many babies actually lapse into a momentary coma from the trauma - either from the procedure or when the anesthetic wears off
Sorry, but thats not the way it goes. I think a parents who have actually been through it with their babies are in more of a position to know how much trauma their baby went through. Jillian my experiences were very much like yours, hun. No worries at all - not "a state of shock" and definitely not a momentary lapse into a coma. Thats ridiculous. Honestly, I have had 4 boys done and if I thought that it was 'barbaric' I certainly would not have repeated it after the first time.

I can understand and respect parents decisions not to have their sons done - I would never, ever presume to tell someone how to make such a personal decision. I am quite sick of defending my parenting choices.

This is the last time we have spoken about it, I do not know if he has been done... Basically what I'm saying is I'd never ask coz it's rude (IMHO) & I dont really think she owes it to me or anyone else to discuss it, have to explain the decision the decided etc... It's just not warranted I love the little bugger, he is not my son & it's not my place to comment or pass jusdgement or opinion, if he is done or not I really dont care, he is still the same to me...

But for my son I know I ownt be having it done... I am certain she'll never question us either!!!

Mutual respect!!!
Right On Tracey!!!