Marlene, you're doing things just fine. I know exactly what it's like. My two were frequent wakers (Kayla still is) and sometimes it is tiring, most of the time tho no-one would ever know I wake up to my toddler through the night.

Kayla still feeds through the night and I'm happy for her to have it. We're often too distracted through the day to feed, so we catch up with that closeness through the night Just keep putting a positive spin on it and it will get you through. Think of the lovely bonding, of how Jack knows you are there for him. My DS sleeps through beautifully without a fuss, and we never pressured him or left him crying or grizzling.

my mum had this problem with my sister..she would go in put the lights on low cuggle her and give her warm milk...then she realised thats prob y she keeps doing it what a life lol....then she decided that when she woke up she would put the light on bright pick her up not cuddle and give her water so suddenly it wasnt that great to wake up
Wow, that's quite sad IMO. It's such a short time that they need us through the night.. 1-2 years out of their entire lives isn't long at all.. I make the most of all the cuddles they need.

I guess it all depends on how you see your baby. Is he a manipulative little thing that has figured he can annoy his mummy anytime he wants.. or is he a tiny person that is dependent on his mummy and knows his mummy is there when he needs her. I lean towards the latter and am happy to keep meeting bub's needs, no matter how long it takes.. and it truly doesn't last forever. I love that my kids feel welcome in our bed any time they need it, and TBH I think if I had another baby and it slept through early on I'd feel like I was missing a LOT of bonding. As much as I would love the sleep LOL.

*big hugs* keep up the good work. You're doing your bub no harm. Marcellus said it beautifully "In the long run I think you're making life easier for yourself by investing in a closer relationship with your children."