My DS is 9 months old and will no longer sleep during the day. I'm lucky if I can get him down for 10-20 mins in 12 hours. He is a happy bub most of the time but disintegrates in the early afternoon (for obvious reasons). I've tried everything - he will no longer feed to sleep, wont sleep in the sling, or my arms, has always had sleepy music, baby massage, co sleeping.

This would be alright I guess if he slept at night but he doesnt. About every third night he does what we call a good night - goes to bed at 6pm, self settles until 9pm, has a feed and then wakes twice more to be fed during the night and wakes at 6am. BUT most nights he goes down at 6pm, wakes very 10-20 minutes until 9pm, feeds and then wakes every 1.5 to 2 hours and only booby will soothe him back to sleep, then wakes for the day between 5 - 5.30am.

Any suggestions?? The lack of personal / down time is driving me bonkers - I basically only get it when asleep. DH works long hours and travels a lot for work, so thats not an option.