Sacha, what happens when you try patting? Does she struggle to get up and scream? What happens if you persist with it for a few minutes? I'm asking because I know sometimes my DS has to scream for a minute or so before he can calm down - he will self-settle and be fine, usually he even wants to sleep and is only screaming because I've kept him up by changing his nappy or something instead of putting him straight down. It's not the same I know, as he know longer wants bb before bed, but I'm wondering if she just might need to scream for a minute, either with you patting her, or not. And if you just left her (not for long of course) would she settle straight down?