Thanks girls

I re read that now and it sounds so...difficult! Gosh how did we get into this mess, lol!

Jessica, I am really dreading doing it. I so hate to hear them crying, and to think that it will kinda be at my hand that they will be miserable will kill me. But I need to do it. We just can't go on the same way anymore. We really thought that it might resolve itself by now, particularly DD's waking. I thought at 2 1/2 she'd be sleeping through. And if she were, we would be able to handle DS's waking. But not both.
And this is why I have asked for suggestions, because although we have a lose plan, there are no details to it, just 'we HAVE to do this!'. So any suggestions are more than welcome! Writing down our goals somwhere we can see them is a great start I think. Thanks
I don't want to get rid of the dummies too, but DH does. Maybe we could do that now....or we could just get rid of them for day times. They will only be for sleeping. The blankies are staying, we don't mind the blankies, they aren't so much of a problem.
At least being so stressed, if it all goes more smoothly than I expect, then at least I won't have any expectations that might be dashed! And yes, consistency will be the key. That is the problem. DH will be able to do it. But me....I hate the sounds of them crying (as every mum does!), to the point I get anxiety...eeek!!!

Kim, thankyou hun, I know you have your own issues with sleeping at your house!

Anna, yes sleep deprivation is torturous. I am pretty sure it is a big contributing factor in why I feel so crappy and overly emotional all the time...
Weaning scares me too. I do love feeding my little man, but he's still feeding 5 or so times a day (as in 24hrs). And I really need sleep. If I can night wean him, then maybe he won't wake at night. It would mean 1-2 less times I have to wake up! And when I feed him at night I tend to stay awake for those 10-15mins til he's finished, unless I'm absolutely, horrifically dog tired, then I just fall asleep with him suckling away. So I just need to stop night feeds I think. Day time is ok!

Ok gotta go, the little man is awake