lilias I was really worried about night weaning too, I was sure she wouldn't stand for it. But a few weeks ago I just started giving her a dummy and a cuddle back to sleep and it really worked. She fought the dummy initially but once it was in she was ok with it. After a little while she even started to sleep through after waking up 2+ times a night for this whole year. We have had a slight setback this week, I think because she (finally ) had her 12 month shots, but I just wanted you to know that I was absolutely dreading it and it was so much easier than I expected. I couldn't get the Bear to go to her instead of me because she would just howl for me, but she was ok without boobie in the end. If it was me I think I would concentrate on night weaning and get DH to work on keeping DD in her room/ bed. But whatever plan you are most comfortable with go for it, and don't be afraid, it might be easier than you think.
Good luck , I really hope that you guys are all enjoying some well deserved zzzzzzz's very very soon!