I used to feed DS (now nearly 14 months) to sleep. then when he weaned he now has a bottle and book in our arms and then we rock/cuddle him to sleep (or sleepy depending on how he has been). he gets cuddled when he wakes in the night too.... it works, he knows how loved he is. he isnt the most amazing sleeper but he isnt terrible either and i havent had to deal w the stress of leaving him to cry to sleep. i love the cuddles too, so beautioful if he is upset and as soon as i pick him up he goes quiet and 'collapses' onto mummy or daddy. love it. do what works for you and your family honey.