I posted something similar (not IVF) the other day in toddler discussion. My dh doesnt want anymore. We have 2. Says he wants to get on with life - with our two beautiful girls. I dont feel 'finished' if that makes sense. I was truly devastated at the beginning of the week, i couldnt even talk to him, which of course caused tension in the house.
I had a good talk with him on Wednesday. I asked him to do three things for me.....1. At least think about why i might want another. Look at things from my point of view.
2. Promise me we will seriously discuss the option in 12-18 months time. 3. Lets get on with this life he keeps talking about.
I do feel better. Whilst i am still hoping and praying that he will agree to a third, i have also realised its NOT something you can compromise on. Both people have to agree - 50/50.
He's got his reasons for not wanting more, i have mine for wanting more. Its a hard one. I agree with Ellyboo72, i think time will truly tell. I have realised over the past week that having an 8 month old daughter is way too early for my DH to even begin thinking about another.....