This is the perfect reason i tried to start a 'who is ttc#3 thread' I think there is a calling for it. Moving on.

Dh and I are at a stale mate, a couple of months ago we started talking about ttc#3. Neither of us could say 'yes' or 'no'. DS is still b/fng and af hadnt returned yet. BUT NOW af has returned and im 'O' this weekend (started now) and im undecided as to what we should do.
We have such a fantastic balance atm with our two kids and we dont want that balance disrupted. I would hate to stuff up what we have, but in saying that i wouldnt part with either of them for quieds so if we had another then so be it. It would be loved unconditionally like the other 2.
I was talking to my friend today about this very thing as she is decideding on ttc#2 and finding it hard to want to do it as she is enjoying the one on one with him. Anyway she said she has friends that have 3 and they said 2 is good, 3 breaks the back and 4 is do-able because its balanced out again.

3 is an odd number and one would probably be left out, depending on the age difference. Its a very hard decision that once its made then there no turning back hey.

Good luck. Tell me what i should do when youve worked it out, lol.