MBEAR, i know where you coming from in regards to one parent per child. It works well in our family to and the thought of messing up that harmony scares us both so much. I cant answer you about the yearning for another bub because im b/fng. I certainly am hesitant about having another baby, no question about that but then we both look at the kids we have and know how much joy and love we all have for each other that we cant say a definate 'no' to having more. Its a very difficult descision, more so than haveing 1 or 2 i think. Im not prepared to have 4 and thats only because of my age so we need to be totally comfortable about bub #3.