hello Eliza,
My DH was like this also. So we spoke about it alot and what our expectaions were with each other and how we could go about it and not put to much preasure on each other. We set a date when we would start to try and concieve - it was about 4 months down the track but we used the time to get our heads around it and also to get our bodies ready for TTC, so starting to take folica acid and multi vits, I also went off the pill 3 month prior to get my cycles back on track.
Having a date to look fwd to was very helpfull and DH even started to look fwd to it as well.
After 3 month of ttc we fell but I had a m/c - but 2 weeks after that I fell again and am now over 17 weeks.
My advice - talk about it and get it all out in the open, I have foubd if you push men they seem to back off even more.
Dont give up hope!!
I hope my experiance can help even a little bit!
Kate