Hi Coco

Thank you for sharing your concerns with us.

Are you able to talk with your DH and get some kind of timeframe on TTC? What I mean is, tell him that you understand that he is happy to wait but as a compromise, you'd like a date that you can officially start TTC'ing e.g. January 2009 or something.

The silver lining is that is happy to have kids, just not happy to TTC yet. At least in knowing this (and I dont condone deceipt in a relationship) maybe YOU can TTC by charting and just luring him to the bedroom at the right times in your cycle. If he wasnt happy to have kids, I wouldnt be suggesting this but he seems happy about having them so I dont see what damage it could do.

In our TTC thread at the moment, we are discussing that our DH's hate being thought of as baby making machines and only being wanted when the time is right (believe me, all romance is lost once you start officially TTC'ing) so maybe this is what he is worried about.

I think you need to explain to him that your are beyond "sad" about this - maybe he doesnt realise just how much this means to you. It isn't like you're in a new relationship or anything. You are a mature married couple who seem to be in a solid relationship - the perfect environment for a baby!

I hope something is resolved soon for you and when it is, please share it with us ..... hope all goes well and you're joining your pregnant friends very soon.