JellyBean I also completly understand and am in exactly the same position and thought process as you. After looking through all the threads of gender swaying, shettles etc and reading it all we have come to the decision that what will be will be, there is so much to do and not to do and the pressure that comes along with that cant be good for either us or our partners. We are not fans of planning what day to DTD so for us we have come to the conclusion that at the end of the day whatever gender our baby is we will love and cherish no matter what.