I don't think that anyone can truly say that the desire for a certain gender has never entered their heads at all - even if only for a fleeting moment. Even when I was lucky enough to get a boy, then a girl, I still would have preferred another boy when I was having #3 but would be happy with either because we already had one of each kwim? (#3 is a girl) and we gender swayed for a boy with #4 (and were successful - we only DTD the day that I O'd - I always O a few days after the appearance of EWCM) The way I see it, you can give it your best shot, and if it works, then that is brilliant, but if it doesn't then at least you know you tried and at the end of that day that's all you CAN do.