It was a thoughtless comment to make. I agree but perhaps she didn't mean it quite the way it came out. Do you have a good relationship with you MIL. Maybe that was just her warped way of showing concern. Perhaps she was referring to the difficult time you had with Bubs and was actually trying to be 'supportive'. Please don't take her comment on board as it truely was insensative. Just focus on yourself and your family and put her comments to the wayside.