My gosh - what a horridly condescending comment to make! She was speaking to you as though you were a child. How did you respond? Comments like that can catch us so off guard that we are just stunned in the moment and then regret not saying something later on.
Don't be angry at yourself for that - she was WAY out of line there!
Besides, who's to say that your experience would be the same with a second child anyway? In most cases they are vastly different.
On another note - have you considered NFP (Natural Family Planning)? It is far more comprehensive than the billings method and does not have all the nasty side effects of the pill - one of which can be depression. The hormones in the pill change the Ph level of the body (turning it from a more alkaline environment to an acidic one) and this can lead to brain chemistry changing to conditions that are favourable for depression to develop. No - your doctor will not tell you that, but a Naturopath will.
If you do wish to remain on the pill - be sure to take a high potency probiotic (good bacteria) supplement (ask at your local health food store - needs to be kept in fridge). This will help to counteract the acidic environment that the pill creates and prevent you from getting subsequent acidity-based conditions such as thrush, candida, digestive problems, headaches and urinary tract infections.
All the best in dealing with your MIL. Sometimes silence is golden - and other times they need to be put in their place!
I wouldn't worry at all about what your MIL thinks or says. I'm quite sure my MIL doesn't think I can mother one, let alone two. But I have learnt not to care about it (mind you, it has taken time). Now I accept that she will always have a different way of doing things, and that she will never see agree with my ways.
Please don't let things that others say upset you. I am sure that your MIL was trying to be helpful rather than critical, but either way, you know yourself better than she does
Jelly - I have heard of NFP but am not sure of the difference? TBH I am wondering what is going on with everything at the moment, which is why her comments hit a nerve. I thought I had the "o" day sussed and was fairly predictable. Hence we went about business as usual, but am still getting EWCM at the mo (sorry TMI) so am a little bit concerned. On the one hand, I am ok with #2, but after her comments it really threw me into a panic! It just makes me feel that it is not a safe place to have a whinge and a moan without judgement and her thinking I am weak.
Oh well, time will tell and fate will decide the outcome, which I am at peace with, but telling her would be something that I wouldn't relish.
It is funny how one simple comment can change your perspective so much huh?
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