hi Michal!

as the others have hinted it is a tricky balance, and ultimately a choice that comes down to what you and DH feel comfortable with given the paticular circumstances of your family/ies.

in our case we kept our TTC very private (i suffered a m/c before we ttc and therefore felt more 'safe' keeping quiet on the whole topic). HOWEVER, i found it hard to 'laugh' through the whole 'when are you giving us grandkids' comments especially when we went past the 12, 16 and 18 month mark. so finally told my mum that we had been trying, for a long time and nothing was happening. confiding to her was, for me, the biggest relief and best idea. the pressure was off myself to be the strong one and be stoic. i could cry to her on the phone when yet again another bfn came my way. but mum was great, she didnt go blabbing to all and sundry (i think she told one of her close friends who also had trouble TTC in the past...but i was totally cool with that).

i guess in our case we were fortunate that not long after i fell pg with DD. in a way it was so so good to have mum know what we went through to get there ITMS. it made our annoucement feel extra special...

i guess what i am trying to say through our example is that if by telling your family that you are TTC it relieves some stress and loneliness then i'd say go for it; especially if you know that you'll have their understanding...and it doesnt hurt to clarify the 'rules' with them on who to tell/not tell and to ask them not to enquire all the time...i found my mum really respected that...