Just curious as to how early after #1 did you start TTC#2? DS is 4 months old and DH wants to start TTC again next month. the closeness of the two would be nice, but it scares me a bit and also I'm really enjoying DS and the fact that it's just me and him and I can give him so much attention. I'd like to give it another few months before we start trying again. DS was also born by c/s.
Hmmm, i reckon that when the time is right you just KNOW.
We started TTC when DS turned one, but I have PCOS and use clomid to O. It took 6 months. The boys are 2yrs 5mths apart. I would've loved a smaller age gap originally (my sister and i are 17 months apart and have always been BF), BUT the age gap the boys have is fab. Evan was just out of nappies, and is a bit more independent, sleeps well, and can do a few things for himself (get himself a drink and snacks if i'm busy with Zac). And he is also at a stage where he can understand he needs to share my attention a bit.
According to the "experts" () the 'ideal' age gap is 2.5yrs so they both get enough mummy attention. And 4yrs + is too big. But IMO, whatever you have is the perfect.
Are you happy to BF through pregnancy and tandem feed? I guess that would be a big consideration for me. And I am TTC now (kind of!) while BFing and if i fell pg soon i would def end up tandem feeding.
For me and TTC #2 was pretty much once #1 was born. My 2 DD's are less then 11 months apart!
As LG said...you just seem to know when the time is right and feel comfortable. Weigh up the pros and cons....think of future plans, can you afford to have kids close in age, will having them close be hard to look after, time with each child etc.
The gap between #2 and #3 for me is around 14/15 months...so again....nice and close
we waited until DD was 18 months, i wasnt ready, i was also still doing one feed a day and wanted to finish up feeding first and not have to force DD to stop because i was pregnant and to be honest was enjoying DD too much to have another one any earlier!! you WILL know when the time is right!!
I will be waiting until I'm in my last year of uni to TTC #2 (2011/12). I would have loved to have all my children close in age but, at least with the 1st and 2nd that's not going to happen as #1 caught us unawares! (Couldn't be happier though!). We're just not ready, financially and all that, to have more so soon But like you said, it's more time we get to spend with our first's and I say enjoy it while you can!
i think it depends on you and your family situation
for me, we started ttc when ds was 12 months... it happened relatively fast (compared to ttc #1) - IMO start trying when it wouldnt be bad if it happened immediately....
Well I wanted a two year gap and it took us 18mth of TTC to have DS so we started right away but not really tring just not using anything to stop it from happening... It took 2 yr of TTC so we ended up with a 3 yr gap and I LOVE it, as I got 3 wonderful years with just DS and then he was old enough to entertain himself when DD came along... we waited a while before TTC DD2 and it only took 3 mths so we got another 3 yrs gap... we want a 4th but wont start to TTC until april 09 so are hoping for a 4 yr gap...
DH and I are planning to start TTC #2 either late Dec/early Jan- when our boy will be 10-11 months. Main reason being, DS #1 was born in the middle of Feb, so I spent the last trimester in the harsh Aussie heat- was very unpleasant.
I'm determined to conceive #2 this coming summer, carry it over winter and have it in spring- like the animals do!! Lol- that way, the weather gets colder as you get bigger (hence the extra padding is welcome), then bub arrives the same time as the sun in spring, leaving a few months to slim down in time for the hot aussie summer again!
That's my plan anyway- although the universe may have other plans for me.... I am still breastfeeding so I don't know how much that will compromise my chances.
Having said that, DS has been sleeping through the night consistently for 3 months now, and I am finding motherhood very cruisey at this stage, so I feel ready to take on another addition. Pregnancy is very taxing on the body, especially if you are breastfeeding- so you will want to make sure you are not still getting up a few times during the night as this will wear the pants out of you- just my opinion, of course!
If you do decide to get pregnant soon- at least you will have 9 months to enjoy your #1 before #2 arrives. I think whenever you feel confident, ready and somewhat rested!!
We have been trying for no#2 since DD was 14mths ... she is now 2.5yrs old ... i'm going through an emotional transition at present that maybe no#2 may never happen for us
Four Mum's out of my small Mother's Group have already all given birth to their 2nd baby ... calculating that they became pregnant about the time their 1st child was about 18mths old (they are between the ages of about 31 to 35yrs old ) !!
If i was in my 20's i would enjoy the child 1st as long as i can and trying when the 1st child is about 2.5 to 4yrs old
Most of my friends in the late 1980's/ early 1990's planned it that they gave birth to their 2nd baby only a few months before the 1st child was starting primary school ... I reckon it's a brilliant plan & idea
Actually my Mum did the same ... my younger sister was born 3mths before i started primary school ... we were always very close ... infact my daughter has her name as her middle name
My ds is 4 months old and we are probably going ttc #2 early next year i've gone off the mini pill because i keep forgetting to take it. if i fall pregnant before that i guess it's meant to be. I'm worried about them being to close together and i love my time alone with ds but i think more like him the better i love being a mum and i think i will cope with them so close together it's abig decision but you will know if it feels right. I'm still breastfeeding so i dont know if it will happen anytime soon. I've heard there are side affects to falling pregnant while pregnancy but i'm not sure about what they are.
Last edited by Lozza; November 28th, 2008 at 10:50 PM.
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We started ttc when #1 was 9 months as we wanted them close in age. I continued breastfeeding right through the pregnancy and had no issues at all. My boys are 18 months apart and I LOVE having them so close together...they're almost 5 and 3.5 now and great mates DS#1 chose to give up breastfeeding the day after #2 was born. If I had my time again I wouldn't change a thing!
It really depends on your situation, what you want and if you had any issues TTC with #1. We wanted about 3 years between ours and given that we conceived DD first try we thought that we had better take that into conideration when TTC#2. This was a good idea as we concieved first try again and we will have almost exactly 3 years between them. However, if we didn't concieve immediately we would have been happy to keep trying.
TTC#2 How soon did you start?
Reply With Quote) the 'ideal' age gap is 2.5yrs so they both get enough mummy attention. And 4yrs + is too big. But IMO, whatever you have is the perfect.
But like you said, it's more time we get to spend with our first's and I say enjoy it while you can!
DS#1 chose to give up breastfeeding the day after #2 was born. If I had my time again I wouldn't change a thing!
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