Oh wow... You are absolutely TINY!!!! You are about 1/2 my size!!!! Actually, seeing how I am about the size of a house, you must be the size of a townhouse or something...:P
I have to agree with the other girls that your sister is probably jealous of your body, and is making those comments to try and make herself feel a bit better.
Next time that she says something, I do agree that you should say something about how her comments are hurtful, and that you wish that she would stop making them.
BUT I don't think you should point out that she is bigger than you are. As someone who is big, and almost always has been, it is horrible to hear that people think that you are huge (i suppose it would hurt no matter what size you are)... at least you, being tiny, can look in a mirror and see the truth, or hear the truth from the trainer or whoever. But when you actually are big, and people tell you that, there is absolutely nowhere that you can go to, to get any reassurance about your body, its size, and how you look - I know that if I was to ask anyone, they would all tell me that I look fat and unattractive, but to actually hear those things out loud would just about kill me! And while I might think that one of my sisters, or one of the girls at work, etc, might look look larger in a particular outfit, or that their skirt is a bit tight, I wouldn't ever say anything - unless we went shopping together, and she was asking for my opinion on something she was trying on...
Instead of making nasty comments back to her, how about just saying that her comments are hurtful, and that you wish that she would stop making them, and then maybe you could ask her if she wants to join the gym with you? Maybe she is looking for someone to help her with her own body size, and would like to go, but not on her own? I know that I HATE going for a walk on my own, but if I am at my mum's house (she is a fitness fanatic), I will quite happily go for 2 hours walks with her, because I have someone to go with, and talk to, and take my mind of the pain! And she also makes me walk faster than what I would do on my own...
Maybe your sister is looking for some kind of reassurance for herself. Do you and your family ever say anything about her body? A stray compliment every now and then can do wonders for someone who rarely hears them! My own (rather skinny) sister said that I looked good in this new shirt that I had bought the other day, and also noticed that I have lost a little bit of weight (5kg), and when people actually notice things, and give you a compliment, then you feel better about yourself and are more likely to do something about the weight. My sisters compliment has kind of kicked along my desire to lose more weight, coz it does get to the point that if no-one is going to notice, then why bother doing anything anyway?
Anyway, I know that i have rambled on a bit, but I hope that makes sense to you - it is a bit late at night, and I don't know if I have found all the right words to say what I am trying to get across....
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